Women & Sexuality

It's Can Be Confusing Being A Woman

Being a woman in this society is damn confusing. (Also true for men, but we are talking most women this go around.) You get conflicting messages most your body from the day you are born. Imagine, diapers for babies meet out of the womb. Constricting, confining and most damaging, covering up. Genitals and corporeal excretions are "bad" from the very beginning. Then you learn to talk and understand. The messages are convoluted: "Sex is dirty, save it for the one you love. Be sexually liberated, but beatific girls don't indulge. Be a beatific mate, enjoy sex, but not too much, because only sluts really really same sex. Own all of who you are, fuck yourself, but rise above your sexed desires. Be sexy same Brittany Spears or Madonna, but don't hit stimulate before marriage, or meet feature "NO." No wonder we're all schizophrenic most sex.

Know Who You Are
Knowing who you are and what you poverty is the first and most essential step in clarifying what your sexuality is all about. This isn't most anyone else, meet you. You hit to decide what feels good, and what doesn't. Buddhism believes that all of who you are is divine. Your hair, your body, your mind, your smile, your soul, your heart, everything most you is sacred and beautiful. Getting clarification most these issues module allow you to relax, let go and surrender to the orgasmic energy within your body and in the cosmos. You crapper get more and more clear with or without a partner. Each instance you are with a relation you crapper learn more most yourself and your sexuality. Each instance you self pleasure, you crapper know more most what pleases you, more most your body, more most your pleasure, more most your boundaries and more most how you verify care of your self sexually and emotionally. Use every opportunity to learn more most yourself. You're worth it. Your sexuality is worth it.

You Are Responsible For Your Arousal
One of the issues that comes up frequently in working with clients is the old "who is responsible for what?" Although it has become a cliché to feature that "You are responsible for you and for your sexed turn-on", a lot of women don't know what that means in a applicatory sense. We hit been taught that men verify the initiative and we often expect them to know such more most stimulate than we do. This is one of those beliefs that is constricting as substantially as untrue. It puts enormous pressure on the guy to be unreal. The truth is, he often doesn't know anymore than you and sometimes, less. He's had such more permission to experiment with his sexuality, and may be more easy expanding his repertoire, i.e. disagreeable new things.

Communicate
You, my fuck woman, are a deliciously complicated sexed being. This means you hit assorted needs and desires at assorted times. Although this crapper be tantalizingly wonderful, it crapper be very confusing to the poor man, or someone partner, who is disagreeable to understand you and only wants to please you. This is another reason you need to know what YOU want, so you crapper be prepared to communicate those desires to your partner. What you desire may change with your cycle, your mood, the weather, and how aroused you are. You hit specific erogenous zones and trigger spots. You are in the best position to learn these and then communicate them to your relation at the appropriate time. Regardless of your underway status, with one relation for a long instance or with a new one, stretch yourself to be more open verbally with your relation most sex. It's kinda scary but it has such a huge payoff, and it is titillating too.

Demonstrate How You Like To Be Stimulated
A really fun thing to do is to demonstrate on yourself, with movement and descriptive words as well, exactly how you same to be loved? Begin with how you same to be touched, and where? How such kissing and what kind of kissing do you like. How does your yoni (Tantric for vulva) same to be approached? What do you same to experience with oral, manual or penile sex? This crapper really turn you both on. To feature "I'm interested in you" suggests to him that he reciprocate by demonstrating how he likes to be loved. Trust me, you module learn something most stroking his vajra (Tantric for penis) by carefully watching how it does it to himself. And you module both get even more turned on. Ask questions if you aren't clear most something.

Men Need To Know How They Are Doing
Men fuck to get respectful, caring feedback from their women. It gives them confidence that they are going in the correct content and that you are having a beatific time, that you are truly involved. Making fuck to someone who is quiet, moves little, never moans or screams is not only a bit boring, but is enigmatic to the giver. He is in no man's land disagreeable to figure out if what he is doing has any termination at all. Remember to compliment this wonderful man who is disagreeable so hard (pun intended). Many men are very sensitive to be criticized. Be sure you discuss with him before hand most your desire to be more communicative and give him feedback most what pleasures you. If you are careful to include compliments, acknowledgments in the form of "oh, yes, that's right, oh, perfect, oh, keep doing that," he module be such more open to accepting the occasional "little to the left, oh, harder please, softer would feel beatific correct now." You get the picture. Avoid sudden shifts or angry outbursts. Chances are he is doing his best. Remember, positive reinforcement works.

Drop Your Agenda & Explore
In Tantra, we are such more interested in pleasure and ecstasy than in orgasms, but we fuck orgasms too. As you become more and more open to your own pleasure, you module feel less and less the need to push for orgasm. The less you and your relation feel the pressure to "cum," the more sexed delights there are to experience, because he module last longer and you module hit more instance to get everything you want. Buddhism is the Sanskrit word for to weave. We same to think of making fuck as a weaving of phallic and someone energies, a diversion of movement, breath, good and presence. Buddhism celebrates the earthy, sexed you. Let go, relax, breathe, fuck and honor your body and your partner. There is so such pleasure to be had. It is there all the time. All you hit to do is make the time, communicate, relax, touch, and the divine does all the rest. There is no place to go, no sentiency to have, meet be.